thoughts on daring greatly.

Tuesday, September 24, 2013

On the recommendation of a friend with the same name, I picked up Brené Brown's latest book, "Daring Greatly" and started reading it on the plane.

Sarah & Sara
I quickly learned - as tears pooled involuntarily - that it's not the sorta book I can read in public; especially sitting in the aisle seat of a jam packed airplane just a few months after an ego-reducing emotional breakdown of my own.

Do I wish I found this book 3 months ago? Absolutely. It talks about everything I had to learn on my own (the hard way) back in June. Namely, embracing vulnerability. I'm only 5 chapters in but a few things have already stood out:

"letting go of exhaustion as a status symbol and productivity as self-worth."

I cannot even begin to count the number of times per day I drop the "I'm so busy" bomb - in emails, phone calls, blog posts, random conversations... people are sick of hearing it just as I'm sick of saying it.  I woke up this morning thinking, "Sara you have NO time to blog" but look at me go. 

"to put our art, our writing, our photography, our ideas out into the world with no assurance of acceptance or appreciation - that's vulnerability."

When I hit 'publish' on my quarter life crisis post I never expected the response I got. To be accepted but also congratulated for being vulnerable and honest, how wonderfully bizarre. I didn't tell a lot of people this, but when I entered the AyA Kitchen & Bath BlogPodium Bound contest for the second time I told myself (and Britt from Gallery No. 8), "if I win, I'll take it as a sign that I need to make a serious career change". We all know how the story goes, but actually flying to Toronto and meeting other people who - on a daily basis - put their art, writing, photography, ideas on display was like chicken soup for my soul. I got them, they got me and for 4 days I didn't feel like I had to justify, defend or be self-conscious about my online presence or passion to create.
Emma, Sara, Christine

"I am enough."

Something I tell myself everyday in hopes of one day actually believing it.

Needless to say, I'm a big fan of Brené's book so far. While sitting on the plane with my thoughts and tears, I realized that living my dream is synonymous with living my values (family, friends, creativity, fun).

Just recently I was asked to write two eulogies: one on how I want to be remembered and one on how I will be remembered. I haven't actually done the exercise (it's a bit morbid), but I did get the message and it's become one of my newest goal... to live a life worth remembering.

okay I'm off to celebrate Gabriel's 2nd b-day :D
*** halle-freaking-lujah my kid turned TWO ***
it's SUCH an accomplishment that Trev & I managed to keep him alive (and ourselves somewhat sane) for last 730 days... sure did just use a calculator ;)
lurve to you all.

BlogPodium recap coming soon {ish}


Morgan said...

It's my absolute favourite book ever. I think I'm on my third reading. It's one of those that you can revisit over and over.

The scarcity thing is so true in our culture. We feel like we don't have enough from the first moment in the morning. That passage where she talks about waking up thinking "I didn't get enough sleep, I have too many things to do and not enough time....." and that feeling of failing because we can't get everything done......that is such a window into my life some days (hence why I have stopped blogging).

Your quarter life crisis post totally made me think of this book - when she talks about how vulnerability in others looks like courage (your post was so brave) but for me to do the same feels like weakness. Vulnerability is courage.....even though it's so darn scary! I bet you've been feeling that a lot with the big career change. I'm so so happy for you for taking that leap!

Here is to wholehearted living and to the wonderfully wise Brene Brown!

Rustic Retrievals said...

You have put into words exactly how I am feeling....I could NOT have said it better! I am definitely going to pick up this book to help me wrap my head around some things floating through my mind and deep in my heart these days.
I think it truly is about going back to basics like you said...being true to who you are, your values, your friends and family. Sometimes we stray off that path of who we are, but, somehow, we always seem to find our way back...whether it's through a book or through a life change...we'll get there!
Thank you so very much for this post....makes me feel like I can truly, fully exhale..

Rosa @ Flutter Flutter said...

I am such a huge fan of Brene Brown! Her books have made such an impact on my life. I would love to meet her one day. Glad you're enjoying it too!

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Amy Walters said...

Okay, I need to read this book. Everything you just wrote about, that's me too. Eek.
Glad you've been able to work through some of the struggles you've been facing. That takes so much courage. Cheering you on! xo

Ps. I love your blog design. I haven't popped by in a while and this is the first time I'm seeing it. It's LOVELY.

Sian said...

I'm loving reading about your journey. Its funny how being vulnerable seems so scary but is so powerful! I'm so getting that book x

Kelly @ A Swell Place to Dwell said...

Can you be my therapist? Please. I think you are so brilliant..and brave, and courageous. I am going to get this book. I don't usually read any sort of self help type books, but I think you have convinced me. I need to gather up the courage to do what I want.

christine, just bella said...

I brought the book with me too but opted not to start it on the plane based on your warning of tears. I'm looking forward to digging in!

Your story, opening up and following your dreams has seriously been an inspiration. It's crazy how we can see that for others but it's so hard for ourselves.

Go you!

p.s. had so much fun with you this past weekend! xoxo

E said...

SO glad you are reading this. I just started her other book and I love it. I've actually thought of you some as I've read her quotes and seen her TED talks. Keep up the updates!!

Kathleen said...

I need to get my hands on this book. I too am guilty of the "busy" and "stressed" talk. We're all busy, let's just get over it.

When I first started my blog (back when I still blogged), I was so scared to share it with anyone in my real life. When I finally did open up and show it to people, a very close friend made fun of me. She compared me to the guy on How I Met Your Mother (haven't seen it). It stung. It stung a lot.

You are an amazing blogger, friend and long-distance mentor. I've truly enjoyed watching your journey from a far. Keep going. We are all here to support you.

Britt Douglas said...

Love you - that is all! xoxo

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